John Alilovich
Compassionate, practical help for family challenges
- Credentials
- LMFT
- Experience
- 40 years
- Licensed in
- California
- Languages
- English
- Format
- Online sessions
About John
John Alilovich is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing in California. He has nearly 40 years of clinical experience split between county mental health work with children and families and a long-running independent practice. He brings years of hands-on work with substance addiction, domestic violence, relationship struggles, parenting challenges, and LGBTQ families.
He meets people where they are and treats them with respect and warmth. His approach is personal and practical.
Background and approach
He starts by listening to each person’s story and treats them as the expert on their life. Together he and the client set clear goals and try out strategies that fit daily life. He emphasizes developing clear steps that a person or family can use between sessions.
John draws from several evidence-based methods to match needs. He uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Attachment-Based ideas, and Dialectical Behavior Therapy when helpful. He will explain options and choose techniques that suit the problem at hand, whether it’s anxiety, grief, parenting issues, or coping with life changes.
He has worked extensively with family-focused concerns such as blended family issues, fatherhood challenges, adoption and foster care, and family of origin problems. He also addresses a wide range of personal concerns including depression, addictions, ADHD, and intimacy-related issues. Sessions are offered in English and John accepts international clients.
He combines direct talk with practical homework and skills practice so people can see change between visits.
Online approaches that suit family and life concerns
John uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to help people notice and change unhelpful thoughts and behaviors; it is practical work for anxiety, depression, and sleep or eating problems. He also draws on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), which focuses on values and taking action even when hard thoughts or feelings are present, useful for stress, grief, and life transitions.Choosing the right method is a shared process. He listens to your goals and tries approaches that fit your situation. If one method does not help, he will adjust strategies so the work stays useful and relevant to your family or personal needs.
Online sessions are offered by video call, phone, live chat, and text-based messaging to provide flexible ways to connect. These options make it easier to fit therapy into busy family schedules, manage caregiving responsibilities, or keep a routine while traveling. The variety of formats also lets people practice skills in between sessions and check in in ways that feel most comfortable.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Less about arguing with difficult thoughts, more about loosening their grip and acting on what matters to you anyway. Values and committed action carry the work, which suits conversation at a distance.
Attachment-Based Therapy
Looks at how early bonds shaped what you expect from closeness, and how that plays out now with a partner, a parent, or your own children.
Client-Centered Therapy
The direction comes from you rather than from a set programme. The therapist offers a warm, non-judgemental space to think out loud and work at your own pace. Online, this rests on the relationship rather than on being in the same room.
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Specialties and expertise
Top specialties
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
- Intimacy-related issues
Also works with
- Abandonment
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Career difficulties
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Divorce and separation
- Eating disorders
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Infidelity
- Intellectual disability
- Jealousy
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Postpartum depression
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Sleeping disorders
- Stress, Anxiety
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
- Experience
- 40 years
- Licensed
- California
- Languages
- English
Next step
Talk to John
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- Nothing to set up just to look
- Stop at any point