Lani Ete
Calm, practical guidance for parenting and family
- Credentials
- LCMHC
- Experience
- 17 years
- Licensed in
- Utah
- Languages
- English
- Format
- Online sessions
About Lani
Lani Ete is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor (LCMHC) with 17 years of experience. She offers online therapy from Utah and speaks English. Lani aims to support people facing stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, anger, depression, addictions, relationship and family concerns, grief, intimacy issues, sleep problems, parenting questions, self-esteem struggles, career changes, bipolar challenges, ADHD, and related areas.
Her style is approachable and warm. Sessions are collaborative and practical.
Background and approach
She asks clients to engage between sessions and to complete brief homework so progress carries into daily life. Lani blends evidence-based techniques to fit each person's needs. She draws on cognitive behavioral methods for thought and behavior patterns.
She also uses client-centered listening to make space for each person’s experience. Attachment-based ideas guide work around early relationship patterns and how they affect current connections. She incorporates acceptance and commitment elements to help people focus on values and meaningful action.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills are used when emotion regulation and distress tolerance are needed. Her training includes a master’s degree in Mental Health Counseling earned in 2007 and a background of study and life in Hawaii. Lani has provided telehealth services since the start of the COVID pandemic and continues to practice online.
She encourages a shared plan for goals and committed effort to get the most from therapy.
Therapeutic approaches and online options
Two of the main approaches she uses are Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Attachment-Based Therapy. CBT focuses on identifying unhelpful thoughts and experimenting with small behavior changes to reduce symptoms like anxiety, depression, and sleep problems. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early relationship patterns affect current connections and helps people shift those patterns to improve intimacy, communication, and family relationships.Finding the right approach is part of the work together. The therapist will talk with each person about goals and preferences, and then suggest methods to try. That plan is adjusted based on what helps most, so sessions stay practical and focused on everyday life.
Online therapy offers flexibility through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging. These formats let people fit sessions around work, parenting, or other responsibilities. They also make it possible to continue therapy across locations, which can be helpful for those who travel or live outside the therapist’s state. Overall, the goal is to make consistent therapy easier to use while keeping the focus on clear goals and steady progress.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Less about arguing with difficult thoughts, more about loosening their grip and acting on what matters to you anyway. Values and committed action carry the work, which suits conversation at a distance.
Attachment-Based Therapy
Looks at how early bonds shaped what you expect from closeness, and how that plays out now with a partner, a parent, or your own children.
Client-Centered Therapy
The direction comes from you rather than from a set programme. The therapist offers a warm, non-judgemental space to think out loud and work at your own pace. Online, this rests on the relationship rather than on being in the same room.
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Specialties and expertise
Top specialties
- Stress, Anxiety
- Trauma and abuse
- Anger management
Also works with
- Abandonment
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Antisocial personality
- Attachment issues
- Avoidant personality
- Bipolar disorder
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Co-morbidity
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Dependent personality
- Depression
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Emptiness
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Relationship issues
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sleeping disorders
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 17 years
- Licensed
- Utah
- Languages
- English
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