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Online therapist

Dr. Ralph Datema

Calm, experienced guidance for families and couples

Credentials
LMFT
Experience
45 years
Licensed in
Colorado
Languages
English
Format
Online sessions

About Ralph

Dr. Ralph Datema is a licensed marriage and family therapist with extensive experience in relationship and family concerns. He uses a supportive, reflective approach to help people facing stress, grief, addiction, anxiety, depression, and parenting challenges.

Dr. Datema emphasizes practical conversation and steady guidance so families and couples can navigate difficult moments. He holds the LMFT credential and practices in Colorado, bringing 45 years of clinical work to each session.

Background and approach

He frames therapy around how people relate to themselves and to others. Sessions focus on everyday interactions, patterns that cause pain, and small changes that improve connection. Dr.

Datema combines tried methods to shape treatments that fit each family or couple he meets. He adapts pacing and goals to suit the situation rather than following one fixed path. His background includes work as a marriage and family therapist, mental health therapist, and pastoral psychotherapist.

That mix guides his attention to both emotional and relational dimensions of life. He also pays attention to multicultural concerns, prejudice and discrimination, and personality-related issues when they affect relationships. Parents and partners can expect direct, compassionate conversations about parenting, intimacy, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue.

Dr. Datema also addresses sleep and eating difficulties, career stress, and serious mood concerns like bipolar disorder. He uses familiar language and clear steps so families can put ideas into practice between sessions.

Overall his aim is to support clients working toward healthier relationships and clearer choices. If a family wants steady, experienced guidance through change, Dr. Datema offers practical help and thoughtful listening.

Approach and online therapy that fit family life

Client-Centered Therapy puts the person's experience first by listening closely and responding without judgment; it helps with building trust, emotional safety, and clearer self-understanding in relationships. The Gottman Method focuses on practical skills for couples - it teaches communication habits and problem-solving steps that reduce conflict and increase connection. Mindfulness Therapy adds tools for noticing stress and managing strong emotions through simple attention practices that people can use during tense family moments.

Finding the right approach is part of therapy. The therapist will work collaboratively to choose methods that match your needs, goals, and preferences. That means trying ideas, checking what helps, and shifting focus when something isn't working for your family.

Online sessions make it easier to fit therapy into busy lives. Video calls let couples and family members meet together from different locations. Phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging offer flexible options for shorter check-ins or when schedules are tight. These formats aim to increase access and make consistent work possible even when life is hectic.

Client-Centered Therapy

The direction comes from you rather than from a set programme. The therapist offers a warm, non-judgemental space to think out loud and work at your own pace. Online, this rests on the relationship rather than on being in the same room.

Existential Therapy

Takes the larger questions seriously: meaning, choice, mortality, responsibility. Suited to periods when the difficulty is less a symptom than a sense that something has to change.

Gottman Method

A research-based framework for couples, focused on how partners argue, repair, and stay connected. Practical and structured, with exercises to try between sessions.

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of problems does he address?
Dr. Datema works with relationship and family issues along with grief, intimacy challenges, self-esteem, stress, anxiety, depression, addictions, and parenting concerns.
What is his therapeutic style like?
He practices in a supportive, reflective manner that invites personal thinking and focuses on how people relate to themselves and others.
How long has he been practicing?
He brings 45 years of clinical experience, including roles as a marriage and family therapist, mental health therapist, and pastoral psychotherapist.
Where is his license from and where does he work?
He is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Colorado with the credential CO LMFT MFT.0000105 and practices in Colorado.
Which languages are used in sessions?
Sessions are offered in English.
What session formats are offered?
He offers video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging for therapy sessions.
How are fees and billing handled?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability, and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
What steps start the process of working together?
Begin by selecting the Start Therapy button, completing a short matching questionnaire, and then scheduling according to therapist availability.

Specialties and expertise

Top specialties

  • Relationship issues
  • Family conflicts
  • Grief

Also works with

Experience
45 years
Licensed
Colorado
Languages
English

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