Barry Plumlee
Calm guidance for family and parenting challenges
- Credentials
- LMFT, LCMFT
- Experience
- 21 years
- Licensed in
- Oklahoma, Missouri, Kansas
- Languages
- English
- Format
- Online sessions
About Barry
Barry Plumlee is a licensed marriage and family therapist who focuses on family and parenting concerns alongside a wide range of emotional challenges. He brings 21 years of experience and practical, down-to-earth support. Sessions are built around clear goals and steady problem-solving rather than long lectures.
He keeps a calm, respectful manner and aims to make conversations feel safe and straightforward. He uses several therapy methods and picks what fits each situation.
Background and approach
That can mean looking at current thoughts and behaviors, talking through relationship patterns, or focusing on personal history to understand repeating problems. He offers tools for managing anxiety, improving sleep, coping with grief, and handling anger in ways that make daily life easier. Barry has long experience in community mental health and family services, plus work with adult and marital issues.
That background shapes how he sees family patterns and communication problems. He also has experience addressing adoption and foster care concerns, blended family dynamics, and first responder issues. In sessions he blends practical skills with listening and reflection.
Parents can expect concrete strategies for common parenting stresses and communication tips they can try at home. He typically meets in the evenings and on Sundays, which can suit busy schedules. Barry holds the Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist credential - LMFT - and the Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist credential - LCMFT.
His Missouri license number is MO LMFT 2017030440 and his Kansas license is LCMFT 703.
How his approaches translate to online family and parenting work
He often draws on Client-Centered Therapy which centers the conversation on the person's experience and priorities. That means the therapist listens closely, reflects back what is said, and helps the client name what matters most so goals become clearer. He also frequently uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT to help identify unhelpful thoughts and test new behaviors. CBT provides practical exercises for anxiety, sleep issues, and mood struggles that can be practiced between sessions.Finding the right approach is treated as a team effort. The therapist will discuss options, try approaches that fit the client's goals, and adjust methods based on what helps. Clients and the therapist decide together which tools to keep using or change over time.
Online sessions are offered by video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to make therapy flexible. These formats let people fit sessions into evening or weekend routines and try different ways of connecting until they find what works best. The variety of options can make regular support easier to maintain alongside daily responsibilities.
Client-Centered Therapy
The direction comes from you rather than from a set programme. The therapist offers a warm, non-judgemental space to think out loud and work at your own pace. Online, this rests on the relationship rather than on being in the same room.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
CBT looks at the link between what you think, how you feel, and what you do. You work on noticing unhelpful patterns and practising steadier responses. It suits online sessions well, because much of the work happens between appointments and can be talked through from anywhere.
Gottman Method
A research-based framework for couples, focused on how partners argue, repair, and stay connected. Practical and structured, with exercises to try between sessions.
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Specialties and expertise
Top specialties
- Stress, Anxiety
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
Also works with
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Anger management
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Co-morbidity
- Codependency
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Depression
- Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)
- Dissociation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Hearing impaired
- Impulsivity
- Mood disorders
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Post-traumatic stress
- Relationship issues
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sleeping disorders
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 21 years
- Licensed
- Oklahoma, Missouri, Kansas
- Languages
- English
Next step
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