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Online therapist

Thomas Haffner

Practical, goal-focused relationship therapy

Credentials
LMFT
Experience
21 years
Licensed in
Kentucky
Languages
English
Format
Online sessions

About Thomas

Thomas Haffner is a licensed marriage and family therapist with 21 years of clinical experience. He practices in Kentucky and focuses on practical, goal-oriented work that helps people make changes in their lives. He presents himself in a friendly, direct way and aims to create a clear path forward for clients who want to improve relationships or manage life stressors.

He adapts methods to each person rather than using a single formula.

Background and approach

Sessions often include problem solving and cognitive techniques to address thoughts and behaviors that cause distress. He also uses structural and inter-relational ideas to look at patterns in family and relationship dynamics. Thomas draws on approaches such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and the Gottman Method to strengthen communication and reduce conflict.

He also uses Narrative Therapy to help people reframe their stories and Solution-Focused Therapy to set concrete, short-term goals. These methods are woven together based on what a client needs most. Those seeking help can expect a therapist who is non-judgmental and straightforward.

He emphasizes working toward clear objectives while offering support through difficult changes such as grief, separation, or midlife transition. The focus is on practical steps that make daily life more manageable. Sessions are offered in English and are available through video calls, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging.

Costs vary with location and therapist availability and use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.

How Thomas Uses Approaches in Online Therapy

Thomas commonly uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to help clients notice and change unhelpful thoughts and behaviors; CBT is practical and useful for anxiety, depression, and stress. He also draws on the Gottman Method to address relationship patterns, improve communication, and reduce conflict between partners.

Finding the best approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will talk with each person about goals, preferences, and what feels most helpful, then combine methods that fit those needs. This makes it easier to try short-term strategies and adjust the plan as progress is seen.

Online sessions are offered by video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to give flexible options that suit busy schedules. These formats allow people to connect from home, work around childcare or travel, and continue work between sessions through messaging when needed. The focus is on making therapy accessible and practical so clients can use what they learn in daily life.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

CBT looks at the link between what you think, how you feel, and what you do. You work on noticing unhelpful patterns and practising steadier responses. It suits online sessions well, because much of the work happens between appointments and can be talked through from anywhere.

Gottman Method

A research-based framework for couples, focused on how partners argue, repair, and stay connected. Practical and structured, with exercises to try between sessions.

Narrative Therapy

Looking at the story you have come to tell about yourself, and where it came from. The work is in separating the problem from your identity and finding accounts that fit you better.

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of concerns does he address?
He works with relationship and family issues plus stress, anxiety, grief, parenting, anger, self-esteem, depression, trauma and compassion fatigue.
What is his general therapy style?
He uses a straightforward, friendly approach that focuses on goals and practical steps rather than long abstract discussion.
How long has he practiced?
He has 21 years of experience as a clinician working with a range of relationship and life concerns.
What are his credentials and where is he based?
He is a LMFT - licensed marriage and family therapist - registered in Kentucky under KY LMFT 104994 and practices in Kentucky.
Which languages are supported?
Sessions are offered in English.
What session formats are offered online?
Therapy can be done by video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging.
How is cost handled?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin a therapy match?
Select the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule according to the therapist's availability.

Specialties and expertise

Top specialties

  • Relationship issues
  • Family conflicts
Experience
21 years
Licensed
Kentucky
Languages
English

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